Authenticity

If I asked you to draw a circle on an A4 paper, how would you do it?

How would you hold the paper, and how much of the page would you use?

Now imagine this question being asked in a crowded place, with pen and paper handed to you. Then imagine those papers being pinned to a wall. I believe you’d see many circles that, while similar, show subtle differences. Picture yourself looking at that wall, and then another question is asked:
“Which of these is not a circle?”
The answer is simple: none of them. That’s exactly what authenticity is. A group of different circles on a wall. Even if the space used and the way the paper is handled vary, the first thing you’ll notice when you look at that wall is a series of circles side by side.

Why is authenticity important?

Authenticity is one of the core traits that make us who we are. It’s a sign of our strengths and of the things that bring us joy. That’s why the world of art is so vibrant and inclusive. Artists who express themselves in different ways offer a rich and colorful world to those who engage with their work.

But one of the most important aspects is how these artists become recognized. Just like in every area of life, those who discover and remain true to their authentic voice are the ones who stand out.

This is also what distinguishes people from one another and adds richness to the bigger picture. If we were all the same, we’d become part of a dull, monochromatic whole. No one around us would stand out, and we’d all walk the same path in the same way. That path, in turn, would have limited potential for growth.

But in a picture where different paths exist, a sense of curiosity and exploration emerges. When you see something different on a nearby road, you get the chance to revise your own map. Maybe you’ll add new trees or take something away.
To me, that’s a beautiful kind of freedom.

How does one become truly authentic?
By getting to know yourself better. I know this is a short and simple answer, but it truly captures the essence. Knowing what brings you joy and what you’re naturally good at is deeply valuable. Of course, these things can change over time, but even the intention to know yourself better is. Asking yourself questions like these helps reveal how you’re growing and evolving:

  • “What have I been enjoying doing lately?”
  • “Which of my skills can I use more in this area?”
  • “Which of the skills I have do I use the most these days?”

Self-compassion and awareness will serve you more than you might expect.

Şapkalar

Uzun zamandan sonra merhaba,

Farkındayım uzun zamandır doğru düzgün paylaşım yapamıyorum ve bundan dolayı planladığım içeriği bu kısa yazı ile paylaşmak istedim. ☺️

Uzun zamandır bir proje üzerine çalışıyorum ve bir şeyi yaratmak düşündüğümden de fazla vakit alıyor. Durmadan yeni bir şey öğrenmek ve üretmeye odaklanıyorum. Sizden bu arayı verdiğim için özür diler ve hazır yarın hafta sonu başlarken güzel vakit geçirmenizi dilerim. 🙏✨

Çok çalışıyorum ama bir o kadar da keyif alıyorum. 🤓 Bir şey üretiyor olmak beni çok motive ediyor ve keyfini size anlatamam. Aslında yaptığım çok farklı bir şey değil; sadece yeni bir alanda benzer yöntemleri kullanmak. Bundan dolayı koçluk şapkamı bazı günler bu iş için değiştiriyorum. 🧢 Bunları yazarken de aklıma Leonardo Da Vinci’nin Vitruvius Adamı aklıma geldi. 🙃 Bence 21. Yüzyılda önemli ilham kaynaklarından biri. Birden fazla alanda olup onları beraber kullanmayı bilmek çok değerli. 🧩 Siz bu konu hakkında ne düşünüyorsunuz? Sizin kaç tane şapkanız var? Bunları yazarken zihnimde bir çok benden oluşan bir görsel canlandı mesela. Hepsi benden ayrı gibi ama hepsi benim birer parçam. Ben aklıma gelen görseli hazırlayacağım ama izninizle size bir soru sormak isterim; sizin aklınızda konuya dair nasıl bir görsel canlandı? 😇

The Infinite Boundaries

When you hear the term “limitless boundaries,” what comes to mind?

How can boundaries be limitless?

It wouldn’t be right for me to answer the first question for you, but I can answer the second one. After all, I was the one who came up with the title of this article. 🤓

Just as we are all different, so are our personal boundaries, just like our perspectives. If we were all countries, and our boundaries were the borders of our countries, the shapes could be very different. 🗺  Some might have more rounded borders,while others might be defined by triangles. Like the concept of authenticity in coaching, this is a source of diversity and richness! I started this article with this idea in mind and drew a few shapes that came to mind. This picture, of course,expands further and fills with even more different shapes. ✨

I drew a few shapes that came to mind, even using different colors. The starting point for this article was actually a moment when I was drawing something else. 🌱 “I don’t like black limited drawings,” I said to the person opposite me. 💬 But I also love black,which is a mixture of all colors and light! Diversity doesn’t have to come from color.

There is only one right answer in this regard: everyone has their own healthy boundaries. ⭐️ Recognizing and respecting them are the keys to nonviolent communication.

So how can we see someone’s boundaries? 🚲

What they like and dislike, their routines, and how they express themselves are all indicators of their personal boundaries. 📍 When you look at it from this perspective, what are your boundaries? 💭What is their shape, color, and definition?  How do you reflect them for nonviolent and healthy communication? 🤓

Koçluğa neden ihtiyaç duyarız?

Koçluk yöntemleri ve bakış açısıyla insanların hayatlarını kolaylaştırmak için vardır. Özellikle ucu açık kuvvetli sorular ve 3. seviye dinleme bu alanın en güçlü araçlarından ikisidir. Bunlara bağlı olarak bir koçun en önemli yetkinliklerinden biri karşısındaki iyi dinlemek ve ihtiyaca yönelik soru sormaktır.

Koçluğun faydaları nelerdir ?

1. Kendimizi daha iyi tanıdığımız için daha rahat kararlar alırız. Öncelik ve değerlerimizi bilmek bize yardımcı olur.

2. Sorunlardan çok çözümlere odaklanarak hızlı problem çözeriz. Hangi kaynağı nasıl kullanacağımızı daha iyi biliriz.

3. Değişim ve dönüşüm zamanlarında esnek ve yaratıcı oluruz. Aşılması gerekilen engeller basit sorulara dönüşür.

4. İş, sosyal ve özel hayatlarımızı dengeli yaşarız. Rutinlerimize keyif veren şeyleri de koyabiliriz. Hatta hiç bilmediğimiz yeni alanlar açılır ve hobilerimiz artabilir.

Nature and Human – 6

One of the routines of someone living in the city, especially in Turkey, is to spend more time with cats and dogs. For example, on my street, we have a loving cat, a dog who thinks itself as the protector of the street, and people who feed them almost every year. I took this photo while I was walking on the street. It, I don’t know its gender, is very lovely and little talkative cat. I share this photo, but she/he turned around itself and shared its day with me. “ Living in the city is something like this,” it said and turned to the other side. Then added, “but this is my corner because this is sunny here.” Then I continued my way by saying, “See you again.” Then I don’t know what it did, but I imagine that it was enjoying the sun more.

Nature and Human – 5

I guess every time I want to draw something different, I find myself discovering something new. 🤓 The story of this picture is similar to this; I wanted to draw the sky, but I wanted it to be a little different. If I were drawing the sky, it might be a little more realistic. I was going to put my yellow window in later anyway. 🪟

The process of the work also reflects the message I want to give; New perspectives can provide freedom. 🌱✨ Until this idea, I was always looking at animals and plants in nature. But it never occurred to me to look at the sky. We always look at the sky to check the weather, to breathe and for many other reasons. In a way, it becomes our compass. 🗺️ It has a very important place in the relationship between nature and humans. It is our guide. 📍How would you describe the sky? What does it mean to you ? 🎈

Nature and humans -4

I normally take photos for my nature and humans content. But this time I wanted to share the relationship between nature and humans as a drawing and asked myself the question “How can I draw? “. 🤓 I thought of drawing a building and an animal facing it. There had to be something that caught the animal’s attention too, something to eat! 🍴This is how the giraffe appeared, staring at an ivy-covered building. 🦒 How would you describe the relationship between nature and humans? 🌱

Harmony within balance and creativity

Today, the concepts of balance and creativity came to my mind at different times. At some point in the middle of the day, I realized that I used my creativity more than I thought about a subject without realizing it. At another point in the day, I saw the importance of balance in nature. 🌸

What kind of balance is this? 🤓

Before I started the article, the word harmony came to my mind, but what I actually mean is; finding your place in balance. 📍 Then my word changed again and became harmony in balance. ✨

We can observe many examples of this in the nature. For example, in the past years I have observed how a cormorant uses its wings to catch its prey under the sea. It understood the balance of the water and dived accordingly. I guess creativity comes into play at this point. Continuing from here, creativity can be using resources in the most possible way to achieve harmony. 🌱

Contrary to what is imagined, creativity can also be seen as something related to daily life. For example, making a meal different or discovering shortcuts while going somewhere can also be described as using your creativity. 🙃 With your permission, I would like to ask you a similar question; How do you use your creativity and become a part of the balance? ✨

Welcome 2023 🌱✨

I’m starting to write the first blog post of 2023! I wasn’t that excited when I was planning this post, but when I looked at the previous similar blog posts , that same feeling came back. As you can see in the post, there is a board. While reading , you can answer the questions that I will ask with paper and pen in any way you want, work on the same board, and/or you can place the answers by creating another board by designing it the way you like, similar to board I shared. 🤓 I used some symbols so that the questions and the board support each other, but as I wrote, you are in one of the best times to be creative. 🌟

📍 Why is the new year important?

The new year, especially the beginning of the year, is one of the most well-known times to set goals and focus on dreams. New chapters are forming in our lives, both chronologically and mentally. Of course, we may have other mile stones, but the subject of today’s post is the beginning of the year. ☺️

While determining your New Year’s goals, you can ask yourself the following questions and fill in your board. I wish you a happy new year again and I wish that the things on your board come true faster than you think. ✨🌱🌳

1. By focusing on which 6 goals/dreams will make 2023 as you want?✨

2. Other than the goals/wishes you have chosen, what would you like to accomplish as you enter 2024?🌟

2. What makes these 7 goals/dreams special from others?❤️

2. What keeps you on track in all circumstances while reaching these goals/dreams?🚲

3. What steps will you take to achieve these and when?💬

4. What will help you in taking these steps?