Etiket: open-ended questions

Suppose you have a wish that reflects you from today to the future and you want it to come true. How would you want it?

It’s actually a very easy question to answer. It comes to my mind to share what I want or think about what I can do to reach by writing. However, there is a very important step that you must take in order for your request to be heard and fulfilled; to ask in the most clear and simple way. If you want two or more things at the same time, your wishes may not come true. When you want something, you must use singular expressions. For example “I want to accomplish this and that today.” is a complicated expression for wanting something. In such a case, you need to sort your request according to your priorities.

Why is it important to prioritize?

Prioritizing something clears your path. You can reach what you want in easier ways.

How can you set priorities?

“Which of these do I want first?” and “Which of these will get me exactly where I want to be?” questions like these will help you set priorities.

How does coaching relate to learning to want something?

Perhaps one of the most important duties of coaches during coaching is to inspire the coachee by asking open-ended questions and not setting directions. During the coaching, focusing on the main goal is very crucial .Thus, coachee’s destination point becomes easier to reach. Marlyn Atkinson talks about intention and mindfulness in one of her articles. Where the two meet, your wishes come true as you wished from the very beginning. (1)

How can you combine intention and attention?

It is very important to want something truly . The more you want something, the faster it will come true. Sometimes, we may perceive the wishes of other people, even those who are not real like movie heroes, as our own. At this point asking “Do I really want this?” question can be very helpful. The scale to which we want something constitutes the attention we pay. To give an example; If you and your friends are interested in a common subject, your friend’s wishes may seem like yours too. You may be listening or even singing the same songs because a friend of yours likes the singer.

Understanding where intention comes from is therefore very important. (2)

Additionally, Dr. Joe Dispenza makes an invaluable statement about intention. With intention, people create a photograph in their brains. The important thing here is that you become determined to live what you see in that photograph. In other words, maintaining your intention increases the possibilities. At this point, you need to transfer the feeling of completeness to your state of experiencing what you want and prove its reality to your subconscious mind. (3)

To wrap up the issue;

Learning how to want is something that I have personally experienced and an outcome that I want everyone to experience as well. Erickson Coaching has shown me the difference between really wanting something and assumption of wanting, in both coaching and coachee positions. Intention and attention are the most important factors for wanting something. When you combine these two, everything happens easily as you want.

(1) Aligning Intention and Attention to Achieve Dream Life, last updated on November 13, 2018, https://erickson.edu/aligning-intention-and-attention-achieve-your-dream-life

(2) Aligning Intention and Attention to Achieve Dream Life, last updated on November 13, 2018, https://erickson.edu/aligning-intention-and-attention-achieve-your-dream-life

(3) ”Dr. Joe Dispenza Defining Intention”, YouTube Video, 22:24, “ Rewire Me” , 2 November, 2015, https://youtu.be/WP1yPCLJ6_s